DRESSING LIKE A RAVER AT CLUBS

Today I wanted to talk a little bit about dressing like a raver when you go to normal clubs. So this is something that I do all the time. Pretty much every single weekend I go out actually. However, I didn’t always feel comfortable enough with myself to wear some of the stuff that feels a little bit more ‘out there’ in more of a normal setting.

I used to play it super safe with my outfits when I went out. I would wear like a black dress…or maybe a black dress and a normal pair of pumps or boots. It wasn’t that I didn’t have a huge closet of rave clothes at the time, it was just that I felt way more comfortable when I was in something that would basically keep eyes off me rather than draw attention. I know I have talked a little bit about my issues with self-esteem on here (I’ll get more in depth with it in my new youtube video (COMING VERY SOON), but it played a really huge part in choosing to always play it safe when it came to clothes. When I first started raving I kept it safe and simple, trying to stray away from more out there items, however as I realized how accepting and open the rave community was I began to feel more comfortable and open to wearing more intense clothing in public. Now, I am so comfortable that I have moved from wearing intense clothes only at raves, and started to wear them to clubs and honestly, it is so much fun.

Now, I have vented about my numerous issues with clubs here on this blog, but that doesn’t mean that I sometime can’t help pushing through it and going to shows. Festival Season isn’t 24/7 so when I need my fix of house and techno; clubs are unfortunately some of the easiest options out there. Nightclubs (at least here in LA) tend to be weird places, where everyone is dressed in black and trying to pick up people, so if you walk in wearing giant platforms and a slime green matching set, you are going to stand out. There is no helping it. When everyone is allergic to color, and you are literally a ray of neon, people are going to look at you, and some are even going to judge you for it. I personally have reached the point where I could care less because I like the way I look in my rave gear, but I can see how it might be a little bit daunting to some.

Now, a large part of doing this is about feeling comfortable with yourself and how you look, and also just generally not giving a shit what anyone thinks of you. Confidence is an important part of rocking rave gear in a club where odds are you are probably going to be the only one (or ‘ones’ if you are doing it with a friend) who aren’t rocking the ever safe black dress and pumps look. If you feel like a million bucks and it shows I can promise you that even if you get a few weird looks, you are more likely to get compliments than anything else. Honestly, I think I have more people come up to me and say something nice about my outfit when I dress like a raver at a club then I do ever.

Another reason why I would suggest giving it a try is that…well to be frank, rave clothes can get kind of pricey. If I am dropping a hundred plus bucks on a pair of boots I want to be able to wear them as often as I possibly can to justify the price tag, yeah, it can be somewhat difficult at first to start figuring out how to work rave clothes into your ‘club’ looks, but at the end of the day, once you work out how to do it, you can give your more out there items a lot more love then they would get otherwise. There is something super sad about seeing your shoes our clothes just sitting there waiting until festival season comes back. If you start incorporating them into night-out looks, you don’t have to feel bad about dropping a little more on a pair of Demonia Boots or a Namila Pants of whatever it is you have been eyeing.

At the end of the day, fashion is about expressing yourself and loving the way you look. If you want to wear a crazy outfit, then do it. No one else opinion of you should factor into how you dress when you go out to have a good time, or just in general. I used to change my style to fit whatever was popular, but now I wear whatever I want, and if I don’t like something I don’t do it just to fit in. It wasn’t easy for me to get to this point and it wasn’t a straight line. I didn’t wake up one morning and decided I didn’t care what anyone thought of my style; it was a slow progression over time. No matter where you are in your style journey I would encourage you to take a chance and be bold, but more than that, to simply do what you want and not let anyone stop you from expressing yourself.

They can judge all they want. You will still be the best dressed at the club.